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Karen Sibal's avatar

A very poignant read, Char. I can relate to the cardinals - I remember one that became a visitor in my yard the day after my dad passed, and he pretty much visits me daily. It's been over 2 years now. Til then, I'd never seen cardinals in my yard at all. I write a lot about my grief journey too, The Truth About Grief, karensibal.substack.com. The grief you feel is that deep love for your grandmother and it is eternal. Thank you for this deep, heartfelt share :)

The Fem Health Community's avatar

**Grief as structural force** — yes.

High-achieving women feel this when nervous systems register identity deaths alongside literal ones, demanding total reweaving.

Your forest insight shifts everything — decay *is* nourishment.

Proof of having lived deeply. Grateful for this medicine. 🌲

The Grief Witch's avatar

Grandmas are so special 💗 My grandma also feels connected to cardinals! I also recommend reading The Wild Edge of Sorrow by Francis Weller for grief support, whenever it calls to you🌹

Char Rogg's avatar

One of my favorites. Need to give it a reread, thank you 🫶🏼

Shar W 🌲🪾's avatar

Thank you Char. It was beautiful to hear you read this and the tears (and meows) made it all the more real. Sorry you have lost your grandmother. Her physical body will not be at your wedding, but I imagine she will be there in ways that are beautiful and magical and meaningful. Make sure she gets an invitation. 💕

Char Rogg's avatar

I love that idea Shar ❤️ Thinking about leaving a chair for her

Sara's avatar

This was beautiful Char.